Shift Your Mindset to Attract High-Paying Clients
I ran into a client of mine yesterday at a function. We’ve been working together the past month, and this is what she told me:
“Bonita, I feel so different. I used to dread calling people to follow-up with them. For years, this has held my business back. Now, I can’t wait to follow-up with people I meet, and I feel so good doing it. I don’t know what happened!”
Listening to her, I couldn’t help but smile. I knew what had happened; her mindset shifted.
With a few simple activities and daily practices, that takes her less than 10 minutes per day, the problem that has plagued her for years, and kept her from earning the income she deserved, dissolved in a matter of weeks!
What was the root cause of her mindset that sabotaged her success? It was her own negative self-talk and disempowering beliefs she told herself day-in and day-out. Old tapes tucked away in her mind that she wasn’t even aware were there.
These beliefs literally “put up a wall” against her being able to receive clients that would pay her fees. And, the more business she lost, the more these beliefs took hold, and a cycle of extreme self-doubt kicked in.
The same thing happens to many other women. It isn’t a lack of skill, capability, or experience that holds women back from getting high-paying clients that value them, and will pay for their services. It’s their emotional mindset.
How do negative self-talk and disempowering beliefs show up?
If any of these ring true for you, its evidence your mindset may be the culprit, and getting in the way of you attracting high-paying clients:
- When you come up with an idea that’ll kick your business into high gear, your mind shifts to “why it won’t work”
- You harbor negative thoughts about your value and worth (“no one will pay that much”)
- You frequently compare yourself to others (and lose)
- You keep changing your mind about WHAT you want to launch
- You waffle “back and forth” about WHAT you want to charge
- You decide on an investment level, and then decrease the fee right before launch
- You downsize your goals (from wanting 8 people enrolled to then deciding on 4)
What are things you can do to dissolve away limiting and disempowering beliefs? Here is what my client did:
1. Keep a daily journal of limiting and disempowering beliefs
What are you telling yourself, day-in and day-out? Most women are playing a broken record in their heads repeatedly that criticizes, judges, and compares.
What’s the way out to break the pattern? For 3 to 5 days, write down every limiting belief that crosses your mind. See if you can detect a “pattern” of the same thoughts that keep recurring.
2. Shift thoughts from disempowering to empowering
Once you’ve identified limiting beliefs, shift them into positives by coming up with evidence of things that disprove the disempowering beliefs. For example, some limiting beliefs could be:
“Things never work out for me as planned. I am not as successful as other women entrepreneurs are. I am not as experienced and can’t charge as much for my services.”
Then, you make an empowering list of things of things like:
“Things do work out as planned for me. The workshop I lead a few months ago was fantastic, and people got a lot of value from my content. I am a successful woman entrepreneur. I have been successful getting clients, and I will get more. I am very creative and have many ideas about how to grow my business. I am experienced. I have a degree. I’ve attended “X” training events and am a continuous learner. I can charge more for my services than I have been…”
By doing this you begin to prove to your mind that these thoughts are true.
3. Do daily affirmations
From your list of things that prove your value, read them aloud to yourself every morning, first-thing when you get up. Try your best to feel what you are saying. Feel successful…feel powerful!
You can also record you what you wrote and listen to it every morning when you get up.
How must value yourself FIRST before you will attract clients who will pay higher fees that reflect your value.
When you step into that beautiful space of being kind, loving, and supportive of yourself, your energy becomes an irresistible attractant to amazing high-paying clients!
